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13 November 2009 @ 10:07 am
Just a personal post relating to my grandfather...

Early this morning my grandfather passed away. He'd only been ill for about 2 months - before that, almost in perfect health. He was a really good guy, had been happily married for well over 50 years and had 5 kids who he adored plus us 15 grandchildren who adored him. He will be missed.

THOMAS AUSTIN BARKER - may he rest in peace.

The last couple of months my father has had this on his study wall, right in front of him. He wrote it himself (even though, as he says, he's 'a science and maths man through and through and doesn't get English as a subject') and the sentiments expressed gave him comfort which I'm thankful for. This is what it says:

As I sit here I commit my Dad into the hands of a God
who is all powerful and all wise.
I remember also that while I can only be in one place at a time
my God is everywhere all the time.

I hand over my Dad to a God who never needs to sleep
and watches over Dad no matter where he is.
Most importantly though,
I remember that my God loves my Dad even more than I do,
and that He does only good for those he loves.

I remember that my Dad has trusted God for years,
in good times and tough,
and I know that our God can always be trusted.

Please help me to trust you.

I only have a few pictures on my computer of him. They will suffice for this small post.

My grandparents earlier this year for their wedding anniversary party.

Grandpop and me in 1991. Me in a not so flattering hat...

Grandpop in the late 1950s. The rest of the photo just had some other relatives in it (including his first child who'd been born weeks earlier). Not the most flattering shot of him ever but in it, he's still quite young.

Katriona: Top gear_friendskatriona_lou on November 12th, 2009 11:58 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry. My grandpa passed away in July and I still miss him so much. He had had a heart attack a few months earlier, but was OK, then he fell down the stairs.

My thoughts are with your family right now, if you need a chat then just send me a private message.

Love Kat x
nicole_21290: paulsmilenicole_21290 on November 13th, 2009 01:36 am (UTC)
Aww, I'm so sorry for your loss. That's awful.

And thank you - tis much appreciated.
bubbles_: Stephen Fry ♫ Smoke Cloudsfantasy_bubbles on November 13th, 2009 01:22 am (UTC)
Sweetie i'm so sorry.. :(
Loosing a loved grandparent is so hard, especially when they were always there when you were growing up. Loosing him in two months must be hard to deal with, life can be so cruel sometimes.
My nan was diagnosed with an illness and died 3 months later and it was certainly a shock, so i know how you feel somewhat.

The photos are lovely, and the poem your dad wrote so very very touching. Treasure his memory always and he will always be with you. As long as you remember somebody, they are always kept alive in your thoughts.

nicole_21290nicole_21290 on November 13th, 2009 01:41 am (UTC)
Thanks for the message - very much appreiated. x
Yeah, they live 5 minutes away from us. Always have and we see them every week at church. :)
The suddeness is the killer (not literally...), hey? About 2 and a bit months ago he was in our backyard fixing out lawnmower and talking about the next fishing trip they were going on. :(
Massive sympathy for your loss whenever that was. That really does suck. *hugs*

Yeah. They were the first ones I could find. I just HAD to write something though. Yeah, Dad pretends he's shit at English stuff but he writes well. At a school camp once our parents had to write us a letter to encourage us for our final year and he wrote this epic 2 page poem. It was beautiful.

Thanks so much for the thoughts. You're wonderful and much appreciated. xoxoxoxo
moomintroll_x on November 13th, 2009 04:58 pm (UTC)
Oh Darling, I'm so sorry. It's always hard to lose anybody, and my thoughts and hugs go out to you and your family.
I don't really know what else to say, I always think my condolances sound hollow but I really mean it. Whenever I've experienced people dying I feel like nothing will be ok again (I'm not saying you feel the same, I'm just saying I can't really imagine what you're going through). But It does.
And that's a beautiful poem, even if appreciating English isn't my strong point.
I love you and I'll be here if you ever want a chat.
nicole_21290: paulsmilenicole_21290 on November 13th, 2009 10:44 pm (UTC)
Thank you very muchly indeed - thoughts AND hugs very much appreciated.
For not knowing what to say, you do a damn good job of being lovely and sweet anyway! :)
Yeah, I liked his poem so I thought I'd post cos I know if I'd tried to write one I would've made a dreadful hash of it.
Love you too and thank you. I really am awfully thankful for you.